Dorinda Lilly Shaffer

Dorinda Lilly Shaffer passed away Sunday, January 22, 2012, at home surrounded by her family and friends.

Dee was born October 22, 1947, in Beckley, WV, the daughter of the late Daniel Ryan Lilly, Sr., and Louise McKinney Lilly Grinstead.

The summer of 1969 was the first of many summers she spent at Camp Strawderman, near Columbia Furnace. It was during this time that she was introduced to her future husband, George. On a snowy West Virginia Saturday afternoon, November 27, 1971, she and Ensign George V. Shaffer were married at St. Mary’s United Methodist Church in Beckley. George always reminded Dee that he took her on a three year honeymoon to Naples, Italy, while they were stationed there during his service in the US Navy.

In 1975, she and George returned to Woodstock, VA, where they made their home raising two children and many beloved pets, including her big brown dog Lincoln.

She is survived by her husband, George V. Shaffer, Woodstock; one son, Matthew S. Shaffer and his wife Julie of Arlington, VA; one daughter, Mary-Margaret S. Kim and her husband Joey, of Midlothian, VA; and granddaughter, Ann-Lilly Caroline Kim (16 months) – the apple of her eye!

She attended Woodrow Wilson High School where she played trumpet in the marching band, which performed in several national venues including the 1964 Orange Bowl Parade. In 1970, she graduated from the School of Physical Education at West Virginia University and then taught in Virginia Beach City Schools for 18 months.

Her mother Louise M. Grinstead resides in Woodstock and her brother Daniel R. Lilly and his wife Denise live in Virginia Beach. She is also survived by numerous McKinney, Lilly, and Shaffer aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, and nephews.

She was preceded in death by her father, Daniel; and her step-father, W.W. Grinstead.

She worked with the family business, Shaffer’s BBQ and Catering, in Woodstock, and reserved her summers for Camp Strawderman. For 25 years she was in charge of the tennis program, teaching countless young women the perfect serve and the ideals of Camp Strawderman.

She was a member of the Woodstock Presbyterian Church, an avid WVU Mountaineers fan, and for several years enjoyed planning holiday celebrations for the children in the community while serving on the Woodstock Enhancement Committee.

The family will receive friends on Tuesday, January 24, from 6:00 – 8:00 p.m. at the Woodstock Presbyterian Church or at other times at the family residence.

A memorial service will be conducted by Rev. Lisa Webb on Wednesday, January 25, at 2:00 p.m. at the Woodstock Presbyterian Church. A time for fellowship and reminiscence will follow in the Shenandoah Room at Shaffer’s Store.

Memorial contributions may be made to the Camp Strawderman Scholarship Fund, in care of Margaret Gouldman, 10902 Brookwood Avenue, Upper Marlboro, MD 20772 or to Blue Ridge Hospice, 333 West Cork Street, Winchester, VA 22601.

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12 Condolences to Dorinda Lilly Shaffer

  1. Susie Childs says:

    I enjoyed so much waiting on Dee and Lincoln at the window at Walton & Smoot. I know he will miss his Mommy and so will her family. I will remember a great lady.

  2. Cate Monaco (age 8) says:

    Dee was a great tennis and archery teacher to me! I will miss her, she always helped me feel great about tennis and archery! I will never walk across the archery field at Camp!
    Cate Monaco (age 8) Camper for two years

  3. Ginny & Jim Frezzo says:

    George, Mary Margaret, Matthew and family,

    We are just so sad to hear about Dee’s passing. We know that you will miss her so much.

    Camp Strawderman just will not be the same!!!!!

    All of you are in our thoughts and prayers,

    Ginny and Jim Frezzo

  4. Lisa Pence Simmons says:

    I met Dee years ago when as a high school / college student I worked with the family catering business on BBQ’s. Dee was a wonderful person and even though we worked hard, we had great fun too. I have many wonderful memories . I am so sorry for your family’s loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  5. Anne Allnutt says:

    Dee’s presence at Strawderman will certainly be missed, but like many pillars of camp, her memory will linger in our hearts for years to come. It was a pleasure to have known Dee. George, Matthew and Mary Margaret — my thoughts are with you and your family.

  6. The family of Jorge Pereira of Tony's Pizza and Pedro Sanchez of Speedy's Auto Express says:

    Dear George and family,

    Our thoughts, prayers, and condolences are with you in this difficult time.

    Lots of love,
    Pereira family, Sanchez family, staff of Tony’s

  7. Brian cary says:

    Dear George and Family,

    We were saddened to hear of Dee’s passing and want to offer our warmest thoughts and prayers during the coming days and weeks. May you feel our love and condolences, as well as those of the many people who were touched by Dee and those who continue to be positively impacted by your family’s involvement in our community.

    The Cary’s — Brian, Joy, Zach, Andrew and Kaelyn

  8. Gina Petrovitch says:

    Mary Margaret,
    Your mother was a true inspiration at camp for all three of us Petrovitch girls. Always warm, always pushing positive thinking, always a friend.
    Thinking of you and your family.
    Carol, Gina and Julia Petrovitch

  9. Anne Bushman Bongiovanni says:

    Dear Mr. Shaffer, Matthew and Mary-Margaret,
    I am so sad to hear of Mrs. Shaffer’s passing and wish I could convey my condolences in person. I have so many great memories of Mrs. Shaffer, and each of you remain in my thoughts and prayers.
    With love and prayers,

  10. Rob and Barbara Rappold says:

    We grew up and attended school in Beckley with Dorinda and always looked forward to our times together. The sweetest smile, loving personality, beautiful inside and out, and great athletic ability. Our sympathy and prayers to the family of this very special person.
    Rob and Barbara Rappold

  11. Betty Offman says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  12. Sam & Shirley Kibler says:

    George and family,
    We are very sorry for the loss of Dee. We know that she will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.